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Post by Zero on Nov 8, 2009 0:59:48 GMT -4
I may as well come out with it since it's been eating away at me for a while now.
A few months ago I told a girl I liked her and wanted to date her. But what I didn't know was that she had been dumped at the alter recently, and wasn't ready to date. I told her we could still be friends and that I would wait for her.
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I found out that she's seeing someone else. A friend had to tell me. I'm glad she's opened up again, but sad that she didn't tell me. How long would I have waited for nothing?
I dismissed it as just another trial of life. Yet, I can't even look at her anymore. I thought I could shake it off, but this love sickness is apparently more than I can take.
I'm not one to go for just any girl. For me, it's like searching for the pearl among the sands.
This feeling. I want it, so it's a desire. But the pain of not having it also makes it a need. So which is it?
Right now, I wish I could live without it.
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Post by Zoomer on Nov 8, 2009 3:51:28 GMT -4
Being human, for what it's worth, means having to live with such things. We have, in our subconscious minds, ways of coping.
The adage that time heals all wounds applies here, because eventually, no matter how hard you try to hold on to this, it will go away in some form or another.
Don't isolate yourself. I know you may feel like that would be best, but it makes things worse. Hang with some friends. Take consolation in the fact that they have probably experienced similar things.
There are others out there. If she wasn't willing to at least take the time to know you for whatever reason, if she didn't even give you a chance, then was she really right for you? You waited for her, and she couldn't even let you know either way.
Despite this, also do not turn to anger. If anything, forgive. Not just out of morality, but because it will help you forget your anger. Not necessarily to her in person, but just in a manner of speaking, in your mind, if you can understand that.
I have never experienced this sort of thing first hand, so take my advice with a grain of salt. But I do know this: It hurts to be alone.
So good luck to you, and may you find what you're looking for somewhere out there.
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Post by Zero on Nov 8, 2009 13:32:10 GMT -4
Well, at least I do feel. And I won't isolate myself.
But I'm finished looking for love. The world is too shallow with its standards for happiness and I refuse to be influenced by it. If there is a chance at love, it's just gonna have to come to me.
I understand there always room for change, but I don't want to pretend to be something I'm not either.
I guess I won't be so lonely as long as I still have friends who accept me for who and what I am.
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Post by Zoomer on Nov 8, 2009 16:44:50 GMT -4
Never change who you are for somebody else. If they can't accept you for who you are, then they are not worth your time or effort.
You have seen the world's lesser qualities, but that doesn't mean you should give up hope on the more positive attributes, either.
If you don't put forth effort at all, then you never will have love. It's not something that can just happen; it's mutual.
I believe that there is somebody out there for all of us, our match, our soulmates, if you will.
Believe what you want to believe, but never give up hope, for without hope, what else do we have?
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Post by White Lightning on Nov 8, 2009 17:59:03 GMT -4
But I'm finished looking for love. The world is too shallow with its standards for happiness and I refuse to be influenced by it. If there is a chance at love, it's just gonna have to come to me. Yes, the world is shallow and unforgiving at times. But you can't let one mishap get to you. This is something I've somewhat learned in life. If you want real happiness in an unforgiving world, let it come to you. Same gose dubbe for love. Its good that you refused to be pulled down by the unfairness of the world. I understand there always room for change, but I don't want to pretend to be something I'm not either. You can change without having to stop what makes you yourself. No one said you had to do that. I guess I won't be so lonely as long as I still have friends who accept me for who and what I am. You've said it right. We're always here for you, brother, no matter what.
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Post by Jessie Winkler on Nov 8, 2009 23:54:50 GMT -4
I'm much in the same boat as you, so I know how you feel.
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Post by Zero on Nov 8, 2009 23:59:48 GMT -4
My head's a bit clearer now, thanks for putting up with me.
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Post by Terminator on Nov 22, 2009 1:51:43 GMT -4
Just forget about it, think somethink very stupid or become some cold-blood. I felt that five times and my method always helps. But it have a darkside too - I feel nothing anymore...
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Post by White Lightning on Nov 23, 2009 3:48:38 GMT -4
But Z is never the one to become cold-blooded or feel nothing.
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Post by Zero on Nov 23, 2009 18:29:31 GMT -4
Yeah man, I got my own coping methods.
I'm definitely over it now, I just had to stop trying so hard.
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